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ARK: SE Dedicated Server Setup
To those having problems joining your own server:
( to solve this:
Once the Server shows up in LAN, start your game. Move to the ServerList and search for “UNOFFICIAL” Servers and make sure you hit the “Password Protected Server” thingy. Let the Search finish and make sure that you CAN’T SEE the server in this list.
start ShooterGameServer.exe “C:ArkServerShooterGameShooterGame.uproject” “/Game/Maps/TheIslandSubMaps/TheIsland?QueryPort=27015?SessionName=MythicalGamers.com?MaxPlayers=50?listen?ServerPassword=pass?ServerAdminPassword=passadmin?” -nosteamclient -game -server -log